A: This is one of the top questions I receive from people. Before we admit our unhappiness to ourselves, we see it in others. It is easy to spot if someone is unhappy because it feels different than when you are around a happy person. This is because of the emotional contagion theory, which means we have a direct relationship between how we feel and how we impact the people around us.
This is why it is great to take leadership and become the happiness activist wherever you go. At this point learning happiness science is a needle in a haystack of life. So more than likely you have to depend on yourself to be the one to ‘bring the happiness’ to the party.
So the best way to influence someone’s mood to help them feel better is by using the AAA. The AAA is:
I admire how you go to work everyday to support our family. I appreciate everything you do to ensure security for us and I want to give you a big hug right now!
You have to use the AAA all together. One right after the other. Go ahead and think about who you want to help feel better and communicate with them through the AAA asap.
For fun, you can practice below in the comments. I would love for you to devote a AAA comment to someone who you would like to help feel better.