Scientifically Understand Love!

Have you ever heard of the God particle? It is also known as the Higgs Boson or Adamantine particle.

It is called the God particle because it explains what existence is made off!

Watch & learn as Steve Adler, a Stanford Aerospace Engineer turned Minister of the Sacred Heart, discusses the God particle & in the process gives us a scientific way to understand love!

But this is not all folks! In this interview Sacred Steve also shares priceless wisdom on how you can manage the force of the God particle in your life to experience more love and happiness in your life!

Watch this interview now!





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The Pursuit Of Happiness Isn't the Way to Happiness!

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness..."


Wow! That is a powerful statement in our Deceleration of Independence! And what better day to reflect on it than today - our Independence Day! Happy 4th of July everyone :-)!!!


As your happiness expert, I'd like to address just the little part of it that says we have an unalienable right to the pursuit of Happiness.


While I believe that each and everyone of us has a right to be happy, I also believe that the pursuit of happiness isn't the way to happiness!


Watch my video below to find out why:

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Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below - I value your feedback :-)!

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Hurting Because of a Break Up?

A while back we talked about the Break Up Formula -- a 5 step process I invented that can help you get through the pain of a break up and back into a happy state quickly and completely.

(For those of you who didn't get to read that post, you can still check it out at http://draymee.blogspot.com/2011/08/q-how-can-i-deal-with-break-up.html).

To demonstrate how the Break Up Formula really works, I wanted to share a story from one of my happiness coaching clients. She followed the five steps, got the closure she needed, and got back on the path to sustainable happiness. 

“Before using the break up formula I was filled with anxiety and had truly not acknowledged what had really happened.  Andrew had broken up with me, and I still was keeping the relationship alive in my mind so I wouldn’t feel the pain. I was in denial.

Once I acknowledged the break up, I began to let go of the anxiety. It was almost as if the ending allowed a beginning – sort of like winter is barren but is necessary for spring to emerge.

Once I accepted the break up, I was able to forgive myself and to forgive Andrew for leaving.  He was right to have left the relationship because the relationship was not working.

Next, I identified the learning lessons, which for me centered around the lack of integrity that was in our relationship and the fact that I allowed him to treat me poorly.  I came to understand that if I allow someone to treat me poorly, I do not respect myself, and if I do not respect myself, no one can.

Learning to be grateful for the relationship, even though it ended and was painful at times, was so important because it allowed me to be free of negative feelings toward someone who hurt me. It also gave me a sense of compassion for myself and for Andrew.

Physically breathing in and letting go was a powerful process, which for me completed the action.  My mind and body were physically freed.

The break-up formula helped on the days when I was sad and wanting Andrew.  It is a formula that clearly puts the situation into proper perspective.  By nature I wanted to go back to the relationship even though it was over and not healthy for me.  This formula helped me see the light and helped me overcome my fears.”

For a quick lesson on the Break Up Formula, watch my video on it here.

Need more help or inspiration to get through the pain of a break up and back into a happy state?

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Achieve Radiating Beauty And Build Your Confidence!

When you feel beautiful, it gives you confidence. You know it does! 


But what if you don't feel beautiful or confident?

Let me tell you a story about how one girl developed her relationship with beauty and how it gave her unshakeable confidence in herself.

There was a girl who was twelve years old, she had zits all over her face, her hair was greasy and always in a lame hairstyle and she always wore the same three outfits over and over again.  She was definitely not in the popular crowd.  There was one girl in the popular crowd who would talk to her and was her friend, yet there was another girl in the popular crowd who always picked on her and put her down.  This girl did not have a lot of confidence in herself. 

Then the twelve year old girl turned fourteen, and her zits disappeared and she got a new hairstyle and the popular group started to talk to her.  This girl then became friends with the popular group and kept her other group of friends too.  She grew in her sense of confidence that had a lot to do with how others perceived her beauty.  She was even sought after by modeling agencies. 

When this girl turned nineteen she became overweight.  She moved to Hollywood and began to exercise three hours a day six days a week.  She really trimmed down and felt like her beauty was hers again.  She was even approached by famous photographers and movie/television directors/producers/agents. 

Never being interested in acting, she pursued modeling more seriously.  She hired a photographer and her goal was to model internationally.  The two of them flew all over the world taking photographs to build her portfolio so she could model for top agencies.

She was invited to invitation only modeling competitions for top international agencies, From that event she ended up having representation in LA, New York, Miami, Atlanta, Chicago, and Detroit.

She modeled for a few years in her early twenties and decided she needed to go back to college to finish her degree.  After college, she moved to San Francisco and her skin became inflamed with cystic acne.  There were zits all over her face and she felt helpless and hopeless.  She was the opposite of confident.  She stopped looking in the mirror and became introverted.  Her Doctor prescribed severe medicine for her.  During the medication, she became terribly depressed and it was hard for her to look at anyone in the eyes when communicating with them.  She was totally convinced everyone was grossed out by her face.  The medication dried her eyes, lips, and nose out so she was never comfortable in her body.  The Doctor recommended six months of treatment and she could only take it for four months because of the toll it was taken on her mind and body.  She saw enough progress that she felt she could stop the treatment.

At this point, she was twenty five and noticed there was a shift in her self-esteem and her self-confidence.  She posted up her old modeling photos so she remember her beauty.  She new it was up to herself to build her self-esteem and self-confidence again.  No one was going to do it for her. She trained herself to look in the mirror again and eventually she built up her self esteem and self confidence again.

This up and down back and forth experience with having beauty and not having beauty led to some deep realizations for this woman.  She realized that beauty is on the inside no matter what her physical appearance may be.  Zits will come and go, fat will come and go, acceptance by the popular group will come and go, professional opportunities will come and go….

What she can count on now is knowing that her beauty is not dependent on how skinny she is or how many zits she has on her face or if she has a cool haircut or if she is part of the cool crowd or if she is an international model

BECAUSE

Her beauty is on the inside. This beauty is unwavering for her and she will have it all of the time no matter what, no one can take it away from her. Knowing that this beauty is hers and no one can take it away, gives her the highest self-esteem and self-confidence that she can imagine.

This self-esteem and self-confidence created a magical switch in her daily experience. It propelled her to pursue and complete her PhD, start a business, have meetings at top television stations, pursue and achieve the relationship of her dreams and publish a book! Any guesses on who this woman is?

You can develop your self-confidence and your self esteem just like this woman. It starts with the recognition of knowing only you can give yourself these powerful feelings of beauty, self-esteem, and self-confidence.  As  Diana LaSalle points out in her article on Feeling Beautiful, real beauty is so much more than your physical appearance! 


Get in touch with the beauty of your heart, mind and soul. When you start to live this beauty, your body will reflect it out to the world and you will achieve a real radiating beauty that everyone will be able to see and feel! And yes, this will boost your confidence too :)!

Visit my Self-Help Store for tools to help you achieve real radiating beauty and build your confidence!



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Want to know the fastest way to Happiness?

Quick, right now, think of five things you are grateful for and list them off the top of your head. Did you feel happier?  Probably!  

Being grateful is the number one, hands down, fastest way to happiness! 

An attitude of gratitude is essential for sustainable happiness.  Scientists have proved this over and over again.  

You may be wondering, what does the word gratitude mean anyway? 

Gratitude is derived from the Latin root gratia meaning grace, graciousness, or gratefulness. According to Pruyser (1976)  all derivatives from the Latin root “have to do with kindness, generousness, gifts, the beauty of giving and receiving, or getting something for nothing.”  Emmons and Shelton (2002) define gratitude as a psychological state that offers a “. . . felt sense of wonder, thankfulness, and appreciation for life.”

The roots of gratitude lie in mostly religious traditions, including Christianity, Judaism, Islam and yet continue to be an elusive topic within the positive psychological literature. (Lazarus & Lazarus, 1994)  Very little empirical research has been done on gratitude. (Emmons & Shelton, 2002)

The benefits of gratitude move beyond just experiencing a satisfying intrinsic feeling and into other subjective states. Chesterton (1924)  asserted that “gratitude produced the most purely joyful moments that have been known to man.” According to the few empirical papers on gratitude, it is a pleasant condition and is linked with positive emotions, including contentment (Walker & Pitts, 1998), happiness, pride, and hope.  Dr. Emmons and Dr. Shelton reference a survey conducted by Gallup in 1998 in which over 90% of American teens and adults said that gratitude helped them to feel extremely happy or somewhat happy. Dr. Emmons and Dr. Crumpler (2000) have reported that a conscious focus on gratitude makes life more fulfilling, meaningful, and productive.  

I trust you are convinced after reading all of the scientific studies.  Now do you understand how gratitude has an extremely positive effect on your life? Then apply this knowledge! 

Here are some simple, scientifically proven, techniques you can use to enhance your feelings of gratitude:

• Journaling about things for which to be grateful

• Thinking about someone for whom you are grateful

• Writing/sending a letter to someone for whom you are grateful

• Meditating on gratitude (present moment awareness)

• Undertaking the “Count Your Blessings” exercise (at the end of the week, writing down three things for which you were grateful)

• Practicing saying “thank you” in a sincere and meaningful way

• Writing thank you notes

• If religious, praying about your gratitude

I would like to share a story with you about how gratitude became such a powerful part of my life.  

When I was nineteen I left the suburbs of Detroit to move to Hollywood.  This was the first time I had ever lived on my own and far away from where I grew up.  The town I had grow up in was very safe.  I could walk at night and never feel at risk.  It was very clean with no visible litter or garbage, there were no homeless people, and fast food restaurants were located only outside the city limits.  

When I started living in Hollywood, it was a severe culture shock for me because of all of the homeless people, gang members, prostitutes, ten-year-old drug dealers, not to mention all of the garbage.  When I walked outside of my apartment, I had my finger on my pepper spray can day or night! 

The biggest lesson this experience gave me was the sense of gratitude toward my parents, my neighborhood, toward the privilege I had grown up with.  I realized that not everyone had a loving and supportive family, safe streets to walk at night, and food consistently in the refrigerator. And this new found sense of gratitude helped to make me happier right where I was!

So go on, think about your life now, and identify some of the things that you can be grateful for in your life. How about the computer or other device that you're using right now to read this blog? It's helping you connect to resources that can contribute to your happiness -- that's something to be pretty grateful for! Or lets go even more basic and be grateful for being able to read at all! Imagine what your life may have been like if you had been illiterate. Or what if you had been blind?...

Once you start to really examine your life though this lens, you'll find so many things to be grateful for! And it will make you happier GUARANTEED!


Need more help or inspiration to make the practice of gratitude a part of your life?
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Q: How can I be happy when I feel constant time pressure?

A: Imagine two birds in a tree. 

One bird says to the other,  “I have to go now, I am meeting my other bird friend at 3 00pm.”

Of course we have to acknowledge time is a man made phenomenon. It provides structure to our days so we remain in the ‘productivity’ role of our mind. However, this notion of time, causes great suffering for those who are dead line driven or constantly needing to check off the never ending to do list.

Stress, Anxiety, Compulsion, Distraction, Confusion, Overwhelm, Desperation, Anger

These are all negative experiences time constraints can provide for us.

I invite you to look above time for now....

Take a deep breath, rise above your relationship to time…and take a good hard look at it.

What is your experience with time? What does it mean to you? Is it stressing you out?

Well... Now, go ahead and imagine your upward spiral of life.

Do you see freedom from time? Enjoying your time? Accomplishing your goals with flow and ease?

What is the trick to turn the downward stressed based experience of time into the magic and rainbows of life?  

LIVE IN THE MOMENT!

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Q: How can I deal with others not accepting me?

A: One of the most basic needs of being human is the feeling of being accepted by others in the group.  No one wants to be the last one picked like in your elementary school gym class so to speak.  Now that we know at a deep root of our psyche we have the desire to 'belong' and be accepted by others.  What may the first step be to achieving that?

Well you can start by accepting yourself entirely.  That feeling of being accepted by the group starts with your feeling inside of whether you accept yourself. If we can not accept ourselves, we d not recognize what it feels like to be accepted by others therefore we do not comprehend the experience when we are indeed in the group environment. 

One way to identify if you are experiences negative self-talk would be to notice what you say to yourself when you make a mistake.  Watch the tone of the voice.  Is it condescending?

"How many times do you have to make that mistake?"
"You are so stupid!"
"You can't do anything right!"

Actually you are not alone, a lot of us do this. In fact, I have invented a very practical way to convert this voice into a positive experience.  Every single one of my clients experiences negative self talk.  If you do this exercise for yourself, I guaranteed that this negative self talk would either disappear entirely or at the very least, lesson its reigns on your un acceptance of yourself and general unhappiness.

If you were to write down a piece of paper all of the negative things you say to yourself and read them aloud, it will lead you straight to unhappiness.  If you wanted to feel better about yourself write down the opposite of that negative talk. 

In my coaching practice, I have my clients purchase a small notebook and whenever that negative talk comes up, I have them write it down on the left side of the pad.  I call this negative self talk, the inner critic. 

The next step is to convert what the inner critic says into the opposite and write it down on the right hand side of the page.  This positive inner voice is what I would call the inner colleague

This is not rocket science of course, yet it requires general persistence, diligence, and commitment.  At night you can read to yourself the inner colleague, which builds its presence in your subconscious while you drift off to sleep. 

The most important element to this INNER CRITIC CONVERSION is to bring that memo pad everywhere you go and convert it as it arises.  Immediately, on the spot, write it down and convert it right there. 
Here are the clear steps so you can begin to accept yourself a lot more than you do now and in fact become happier as a result!

1 – Purchase a small notepad that you can take anywhere.  The spiral bound must be on the side.
2 – Make a commitment to yourself to start this inner critic conversion. 
3 – Every time the inner critic says something to you write it down immediately
4 – Convert it into the inner colleague on the spot
5 – Before bed, read to yourself all of the lovely things the inner colleague told you.


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Dr. Aymee Coget, Sustainable Happiness Expert, founder of The Happiness Makeover™ Training Program offers services and products on how to become happier at her website www.happinessmakeover.com . Ask questions and visit her on FB or twitter @draymee or her blog www.draymee.blogspot.com