Saturday, April 7, 2012

The First Step To Happiness -- Decide To Be Happy :-)!

I know. When you read the title you were like, yeah right!  If it were only that easy!  Well if you listen to all of the experts who feel great all of the time, they all agree it starts with a decision to be happy!

Think about it. Before you go to the bathroom, you decide to go to the bathroom.  Before you do the dishes, you decide to do the dishes.  Before you go on a date, you decide to go on a date.  Do you understand my point?  Before you do anything you have to decide to do it!

Take a minute to ponder the idea of happiness infused into every aspect of your life...

In all of your social interactions, you express gratitude, acceptance, love, kindness, zest, and optimism.  You are smiling almost the whole time no matter if you are talking to someone on the phone or in person.  Imagine being the recipient of that gratitude, acceptance, love, kindness, zest and optimism.  It feels great right?  Sharing your happiness feels like the right thing to do.  In your consumptions, you are conscious of the value of minimalism, ethics, and environmental sustainability.  You are the embodiment of happiness in all of your thoughts, words and actions.  In the entertainment sector of your life, you attend friend gatherings and celebrations, you support local music, and dance until you cannot move anymore!  Your clothing is colorful, vibrant and has smiley faces on everything,  As far as the sustainable happiness worldview is concerned, you always hold a vision of a peaceful, loving, happy, healthy enlightened world remembering the importance of holding that positive vision of the future.  You are happy!  You are feeling like you never felt before, and you see happiness everywhere you look!  You are experiencing what people call the “sunny side of life!”

It looks pretty good, huh?!  You in your happy life. And it feels good too! I know because this is the kind of happy life I live everyday :-)!

This awesome, happy life is possible & within your control!

The firt step to achieving it is for you to make the decision to be happy. No one is going to make it for you! Only you can make this decision for yourself.  It would be like telling someone else that it is time to go to the bathroom.  No one is going to do it for you. Now is the time for you to stand up and take responsibility for your own happiness!  When you make this decision you realize you can no longer depend on all of those people, places or things for your happiness.  This is the time we stop making excuses for the lack of happiness in our lives and give ourselves permission to take control of our own happiness!

I want to tell you a story of one my happiness clients.
Molly escaped the war in Bosnia and was able to come to San Francisco to start a new life. For many years she thought that she should not be happy because the people in her country were suffering so much. She participated in many self-help workshops, yet she was still unhappy.

At last she came to the happiness club, over and over, and she never missed a meeting. The message we teach at the happiness club is that “Happiness Is A Decision,” which never made sense to her. In her words, “I felt like you were telling me to be an orange and I am a lemon.” She thought that we were trying to tell her to be something she was not.
One day, I told her a story about two women. She was sad for many years, was divorced and very bitter, felt that her life was a struggle, was always sick, and she always needed people to pity her. She felt like her life was miserable and it would always be that way because of the events she suffered in the past.

The other woman was happy, joyful, outgoing, colorful, fun, and excited about life. This woman also suffered a great deal of pain in the past, but chose to see and experience life’s positive side.It was through this story that Molly realized that happiness really is a CHOICE!!! This was big news in the happiness club because Molly once told the group that she would never be happy. NEVER.

One woman who attended the happiness club even cried for her in empathy!
How about that?  That is a very extreme case, yet it is very real and people struggle with their happiness all the time every day!  Are you ready to give up the struggle?  Are you ready to make the happiness decision?

Okay, for those skeptics who are saying this author is off her rocker and it can’t be that simple if I have been trying to be happy for years and now she just wants me to decide.  My response would be that in all those years, you have been in your head trying to get other people, places and things to make you happy.

Place your hand on your heart, breathe and ask yourself, “Am I ready to be happy?”
If the answer is YES! Make that happiness decision!
Happiness is always available to you when you are ready for it. Or you can realize that at some point you are going to have to do something different if you are unhappy.  Take a chance!  Join me on the happiness highway!

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Dr. Aymee Coget, a widely-known happiness expert, has more than 15 years of experience in positive psychology. Through the Happiness Makeover™, a program developed by Coget, she teaches people how to achieve happiness and handle life's challenges. She also serves as CEO and founder of the American Happiness Association, a science-backed nonprofit designed to educate individuals and organizations about how to be happier, and was nominated for CNN Hero of the Year in 2011.   


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