Friday, February 17, 2012

How to Make Your Wishes Come True

If you type, "how to make my dreams come true" in a Google search, you will receive almost FIVE MILLION results! 

While the answer might be different in each result, the message is the same: there is a way to make your dreams come true. But how?

Well, you can grant your own wishes. By taking three fairly obvious and very simple steps, you can have the life you’ve dreamt about.

Step 1: Be happy no matter what.

If you believe that you’re never going to get a better job or a nicer home or a happier marriage, you won’t. If you focus on how bad you feel about your lot in life, you won’t be happy. You won’t see the possibilities that are in front of you. You won’t hear opportunity knocking if you’re too busy listening to sulking. Decide to be happy no matter what life has given you or sends your way.

Step 2: Have a vision for your dreams

Once you are committed to being happy, your brain will start believing that good things can happen. You will start seeing where you want to be, and how it is possible to have your wishes come true. You will have a clear picture of what you want, and you will have something concrete to go after. Part of making your wishes come true is knowing what you wish for.

If you’re struggling to create a clear vision of what you want in life, try using the Social Construction of Reality theory. This concept, created by Berger and Luckman in 1966, suggests that our entire human experience is shaped by seven categories of existence.

·         Socialization (the people around us)
·         Institutions (the organizations we associate with)
·         Language (the type of speech we use)
·         Knowledge (the things we know)
·         Habits (the things we regularly do)
·         Reification (the objects we surround ourselves with)
·         Legitimation (the principles we use to validate ourselves)

You can create a vision for your dreams by answering questions that help you evaluate these essential areas of your life. Ask yourself:

·         Who am I socializing with when my wishes become reality?
·         What institutions am I a part of when my dreams have come true?
·         What is the language I am using? What words and sentences am saying when my dreams have come true?
·         What is the knowledge I have when I have achieved my dreams?
·         What habits am I employing when my dreams have come true?
·         What are the "things" around me when my dreams come true?
·         How do I really know to trust that this is my dream and that it is coming true?

Once you are able to answer those questions, you will have a roadmap of how to grant your own wishes and can move on to step 3.

Step 3: Bring your vision to the present.

After you’ve got a clear vision of what you want to do, be, see, feel, have, put your energy toward bringing it to the present. If you want to find Prince Charming, open your eyes and start looking for him in this moment. If you want to go back to school, get the admissions materials right now. Start turning your wish from something in your mind to something you can grasp. 

You are your own genie in the bottle, your own fairy godmother. You know what you want and you are in control of making your wishes come true.  

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Dr. Aymee Coget, a widely-known happiness expert, has more than 15 years of experience in positive psychology. Through the Happiness Makeover™, a program developed by Coget, she teaches people how to achieve happiness and handle life's challenges. She also serves as CEO and founder of the American Happiness Association, a science-backed nonprofit designed to educate individuals and organizations about how to be happier, and was nominated for CNN Hero of the Year in 2011.

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